TRADITIONAL FUNERAL ETIQUETTE

Funeral Etiquette

When Should I Visit?

Once you learn of someone’s death, visiting the family at their home is appropriate, however the funeral home or visitation time is the best place to visit with family members and offer your condolences.

For anyone wanting to visit and offer assistance to the family before services are held, these actions can provide additional comfort but for some may seem overbearing. Offering to bring food, household necessities, assist with childcare and handle any errands or chores are a few of the things you can do to assist the grieving family.

What Should I Say?

This is the most common question asked by someone wanting to pay their respects. While no words can adequately express the depth of a loss, offering a few kind words to the family of the deceased lets them know you care. Saying things like "sorry", "let us know if there is anything we can do", "praying for you", "love you" are simple expressions to show you care.

You may also want to share your favorite story of the loved one.

Remember if you are coming for visitation; be mindful that they have a lot of friends to talk to in a short amount of time, so keep it brief.

Where Should I Sit?

Many people attend funeral services and are unfamiliar with seating arrangements. Typically, at both the funeral and visitation service, the first rows of seats are reserved for family members. If you are not a part of the family, choose a seat behind the reserved seating.

Can and Should Children Attend Funerals?

Children of all ages are welcomed and encouraged to attend services at Pegues. Although some parents may find it difficult to focus on the funeral services, we love seeing children of all ages at our services. 

What Should I Give?

Nothing is expected. However, some choose to send flowers or gifts to the family during the funeral to offer condolences. In some cases, the family members may ask for donations to be made to a particular foundation in lieu of flowers. Bringing food to the grieving family is another way to show respect, especially here in the South, to those who are suffering from the loss. A less expensive and completely appropriate option would be to send the family a sympathy card. There is no specific time or expiration on when cards can be sent.